Actually, on that note – if the g/t community is having a negative effect on your life, it’s perfectly okay not to participate. This should be fun, not make you sad. Do what’s best for you.
#it’s kind of unhealthy to hinge your happiness on any community
yes it is and I see a lot of behavior on this gd website that borders on co-dependent
it’s one thing to make friends and talk to people without having panic attacks but it’s another thing to construct yourself-worth around this mystical magical “community” that doesn’t actually exist
(the way folks use that term seem to be interchangeable with “club” and that’s just rly fucked up)
don’t do that, take care of yourself, form relationships with individuals not demographics