I have a lot of Thinky Thoughts about how social media has really fucked with/altered our ability to form cohesive relationships and just plain communicate with other people, but that’s better suited to another blog lol
Basically, belonging is important? But I sometimes get the sense that some folk want to belong everywhere or want to be able to belong everywhere, and I think that’s a pretty recent phenom like, in terms of human history? Rates of anxiety and mental illness aren’t anywhere NEAR leveling off, too, and I definitely think that internet use is a huge contributing factor because it creates a weird feedback loop of making it really hard to form community IRL because everyone interesting or “like you” is online, and because everyone starts looking for those connections online, they stop looking for them IRL, and so on. This does not help social anxiety in much of any concrete way, either, which it seems like the tumblr G/t community experiences en masse.
But yeah, that’s kind of weird. I mean, I don’t mind doing that sort of thing – I’m here to communicate and interact and have fun (while decidedly NOT getting the feeling that I belong to some kind of clique), and that’s part and parcel for me. I get how that could happen, though. It would probably be best to just establish t hat boundary right off the bat on your blog info blurb or whatever so you don’t get frustrated and someone else doesn’t have their day ruined because they think you don’t like them.