So I’m in an open marriage and currently seeing a guy to get my harder kinks meet. He’s 6’5"! (I actually mentioned macrophilia in my OKC profile, so… yeah haha)

I’ve gone to his place 3 times already and today was the first time that I started actively encouraging him to do sizekinky dirty talk. It was neat *w*

What’s interesting though is that unless he’s talking about how much bigger than me he is, and unless he adopts this specific body language that says “yeah, I’m fucking huge, tough shit”, then he does not seem 6’5" at all – in fact, he scarcely seems much bigger than my 5’8". And not being bigger than me is a turn off that takes active counteracting so that I can ignore it and try to focus on other things.

The frustrating part is that a bunch of his kinks do zilch for me: gangbangs, (legal) public sex, calling me a slut or a whore, and so on. The only way I could see me enjoying getting gangbanged is if, instead of it being like a humiliation/objectification thing, if all the guys were actually really nice to me instead – coddling, almost. Like if 5 strangers were going at me but treating me like a precious, adorable little fuckcreature or something.

HM.

Also: shoutout to people getting their weird fetishes satisfied from someone not their primary partner. Because let’s face it, as much as we’d like them to be, sometimes our baes can’t be everything we need.