Yeah, that’s probably part of it too.
Idk whether it’s the culture here on tumblr or just the average age of the tumblr user or what, but I’ve always felt like people had REALLY IFFY boundaries here. All the SJW shit really has this effect of encouraging the eradication of boundaries of “privileged” people in the name of being good allies or whatever. Even outside the SJW-o-sphere, with younger users that have social anxiety or just don’t know how to interact with people in any way, I’ve noticed a lot of, frankly, bizarre methods of trying to foster community among people who are terrified of each other. Methods that sound like they make sense to the egalitarian who doesn’t want to step on toes, but winds up turning emotional support into this kind of quantifiable, trade-able commodity? Or methods of interaction that assume everyone is secretly miserable inside and want to spill their guts to everyone?
And so some people just wind up assuming X because someone’s blog profile says Y and it’s just… really awkward.
And the result of all the above is that still, no one knows how to establish or respect boundaries.
Yannow, re-reading this, I don’t know how I mis-interpreted this to mean stuff that’s not RP. For some reason I think I read it as “talked to about anything”. :V
ANYWAYS yeah that is also a big problem (though not, as is the case with much of the emotional boundary stuff, unique to tumblr in any way shape or form). It has the added coercive factor of “I don’t want to be a buzzkill” or “if I say something this could all have been a big waste of time”.
I think the best thing to do would be to say upfront in your RP page/bio that not only are X, Y, Z your limits and stuff, but that you will not hesitate to end a RP if those limits are not being respected, and that if you are sufficiently pissed off by their misleading you, you’ll drop off the map without even concerning yourself with giving an explanation. That way they know you’re not fucking around.