I think it’s best if I left the G/t community. More people will just end up hating me anyways.
Who hates you?
As hurt as I am, I’d rather not name names.
I dig… I currently have 25 followers. I’m not even kidding when I say that I lose followers all the time.
I just shrug and say “Fuck em.”
I look at it as sorting out the Riff-Raff. The ones who stay are cool and obviously get me, and the ones that leave… Fuck em, they don’t matter.. XD
Honestly, the community is so petty. Just you do you. Don’t seek community validation. It works out better in the end that way.
I just want to have friends in the community. I’m not after validation.
Yeah, but it just goes back to that whole petty thing. There’s totally cliques in the community. Which sucks.
Now that you’ve mentioned it, I sort of sensed that was the case.
Yeah. Like, they’re very vague cliques, but still…
If you go outside of tumblr, they’re very clearly delineated and obvious cliques.
I’ve never found a comfortable place in any subculture or community, so I know the feel. Just think of it as a way to practice non-attachment. :V
But I just want to have friends.
I hear ya.
My advice* is to figure out how to take a step back (but not too many) and make yourself available and open, but don’t just jump into stuff or overshare. (Seriously guise, I know it’s fun rn, but oversharing is no bueno in the long run.) Good people do tend to gravitate toward each other, especially when they figure out how to weather the storms in small communities.
I used to be in this bad habit of joining communities, getting disillusioned, and leaving, but after a while I realized that that was a terrible way of going about things, so I just muscled my way into places and dug my heels in, even if no one went out of their way to make me feel especially welcome. I made myself feel welcome, and eventually, being there just became a habit. Once it’s habitual, then you’re a regular, and like I said, good people gravitate toward each other.
*take what I say with a grain of salt because I’m an extrovert but also jaded and not actually a people-person if that makes any sense like I can get along in places without friends just fine